Way.ca.tion: A rest for the mind; an unconventional method of escaping the moment and returning refreshed and better than before.
Monday, December 21, 2009
For an upcoming party I decided to wear a great little outfit that had been packed away for a couple of years. Mindful of my spending, I chose to hand wash and line dry a cute little two piece dress. After a full day of line drying my outfit was still damp so, despite the label’s care instructions, I decided to use the dryer to speed up the process. When the cycle ended I saw that my outfit was still damp and for the next two days whenever I thought about it I’d try a new dryer setting only to find my outfit still lay damp and limp.
Fast-forward to day three, and my outfit was still not dry. I realized the dryer motor worked but decided the heating cycle was broken. This was the beginning of my unproductive tension. It started with one little negative thought, the beginning of beating myself up: “Now I have to wear something I don’t want to wear”, followed by thoughts of whether or not I should make a quick run to the store and buy another outfit; followed by thoughts of past transgressions which lead to this disaster and, of course, thoughts of the money I’d tried to save wasted on fixing the dryer to boot!!
I spent 45 minutes on Google looking for dryer repair people. Just before making the call, I stopped by my laundry room again. After days of multiples cycles and time spent filled with negative thoughts, like whirling dervishes in my head, I realized that the garment had never made it to the dryer. I’d been turning the dryer on but had never removed my dress from the washing machine.
To state the obvious: you can’t dry clothes in a washer it never work!
Being distracted wastes time. It’s costly and sure to make you angry at yourself or someone else. When you’re distracted you’re not focused. Once distracted you can easily move to a place called “unproductive tension,” where after an incident such as mine, you allow your mind to build thought upon negative thought—and suddenly your mind has run away with itself. At that point you’re a wreck and you’ve probably made a few other people around you “wrecks” as well, and yes, even angry.
During these holiday times we find ourselves terribly distracted: arguments in stores or at work; road rage; and melancholy while watching a Christmas commercial. This is why I think there are so many accidents, depression and arguments during the last quarter of the year. We are thinking so much more and pre-occupied with the past too much or are too far in the future and not present to what really should be a joyous time.
So as a specialist with tools my moments are short and far apart but at last the specialist is also human. What I say to you I say to myself: stay focused, stay present, notice what’s happening in your head before your thoughts have a chance to build momentum. The sooner you catch yourself in the act of building your mental snowball or mind tornado the easier it is to stop.
Jingle all the way…..
Thursday, December 17, 2009
Are You Too Busy? How Can You Tell?
Although it may not always seem so, how we fill and spend our time is our choice. Answer the following questions to discover if you're caught up in the "too-busy" cycle.
|True | False|
|1. I constantly find myself doing "urgent" things and trying to catch up.|
|2. I allow myself to drift into obligations before I know how much time or energy they'll require.|
|3. I find myself running from when I get up in the morning until I go to bed at night. I'm always tired and never feel that I accomplished enough.|
|4. I seldom schedule a day off for myself and when I do, I tend to fill it with activities.|
|5. I don't make time for self-care: physical exercise, nurturing or pampering myself, cultural stimulation, spiritual well-being, learning something new, playing or simply doing nothing.|
|6. I seldom have time to do the things I really love. My work and project areas are cluttered with "I'll look at this later" stacks and "to-do" piles.|
|7. I often miscalculate how long activities will take.|
|8. I often miss deadlines or work long hours to meet a deadline.|
|9. I respond to interruptions such as phone calls, text messages and email, and allow them to take me off track.|
|10. I try to keep things in my head rather than making lists. If I do make a daily "to-do" list, it's impossible to complete in a day.|
|11. I tend to move from one urgent thing to the next, rather than working toward specific goals and objectives.|
|12. I find myself constantly wishing I had more time or projecting an imaginary future|
when I have more time, making comments such as "as soon as..." or "next year..."
|13. I spend time running errands and rushing because I didn't plan well enough.|
|14. I spend time doing things I could pay someone else to do.|
|15. I often do things because I "should," or continue to do things that no longer fit who I am.|
|16. Other people complain that my schedule doesn't allow enough time for them.|
If you answered "true" to many of these questions and would like to explore ways to slow down your life, please don't hesitate to call: 510.393.0250
Put yourself in your daughter or son’s third grade teacher’s shoes. Imagine having 20 sweet little darling’s all-day-long!!!
You really can’t go wrong with the price point of the gift either. I know if someone had gifted me “calm in a basket” when I had all the little ones I would have been incredibly appreciative.
Co-workers and Secret Santa’s forget the hype gifts and give the gift of "calm". It is wonderfully thoughtful, easily done and super cost effective.
First you’ll need to purchase if you don’t already have a bag to hold the contents. You probably have something already and if you don’t want to spend any money on a bag just get a baggy.
What to put in the bag? A really good brand of:
Celestial Seasons mood mender
Mix the teas up. However if you just choose one type of the teas you’ll be just fine.
You can add Vitamin C 1000 milligram packets in a box and some Airborne.
This completes the stress survival kit. If you want to, add one of those cool teapots or a cup and if you have a few extra bucks buy them some Bach’s Rescue Remedy (calm in a bottle). Not necessary just extra’s.
You can thank me later!
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
The point of this Survival Kit is to control the anxiety and tension that comes from all that money you’re spending, long lines and crowded streets the holiday’s can bring. I love everything I’m recommending. The key is not just putting the kit together but giving it a try. Trust me, being prepared will make a very big difference.
Find a nice bag (a baggie if you have to).
Then add in an assortment of teas. NOTHING WITH CAFFEINE! Use a good Chamomile or Peppermint tea… I like a tea by Celestial Seasoning called Mood Mender. I like to mix up the teas but if you choose just one for your Survival Kit, that’s Okay.
These calming, herbal teas became my “little friends” during intense meetings. I first started drinking these teas when I worked in Corporate America some years ago. I quickly discovered that there are times to drink coffee and times to drink soothing herbal teas, and knowing these times became part of my survival.
Next, get yourself some vitamin C 1000 milligram packets which come in a box and can be purchased at any store. Not only will it help to stave off a cold, but one packet diluted in water will give you much needed energy. Don’t forget to keep Airborne at home and the office.
Of course, you’ll need a hot and cold cup and, since most people these days carry around bottled water, add one to two packets of “C” or water in your cup. Cheers!
Don’t live without Bach’s Rescue Remedy in your life from this point forward.
Rescue Remedy is great during stressful times. It’s calm in a bottle; a tasteless herbal concoction that’s one of the great inventions of modern times. It only takes a few drops in your water bottle or under your tongue and voila! What looked like an insurmountable obstacle becomes a very manageable challenge. I should own stock in this stuff. I simply love it!! When taken during demanding times it has a re-centering and calm effect.
Lastly folks, though it won’t fit in your bag. Do what I call “stepping out of the ring.” I know you want to work through lunch because you “just want to get the job done,” and sometimes you must, however commit to stepping out of the ring of intense energy by walking, or any other physical exercise, 3 times a week at lunch.
By using the tricks in your Survival Bag, not only will you find yourself calmer during these crazy times, but you’ll be able to enjoy them.
Peace on Earth……
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
My work seems to create a good deal of fascination, humor and loads and loads of questions. The following are three questions I am often asked:
1. How can you stand doing this?
2. Are you ever afraid and who are your clients?
3. How did you get into this line of work ?
1. I love doing the work that I do. As a matter of fact I would even venture to say, the more abrasive and unruly the client the greater the challenge and the deeper I dig my heels in to find the best tools and deepest levels of compassion to move that person forward. I am perfectly suited in temperament, as a listener and as a person who loves to watch the unfoldment of change.
2. Never been afraid. My particular choice is working with smart people who have abrasive behavior that affects their life and the lives of others by this bad behavior. This is why I love doing employer ordered work. While I work with all types of clients, employer ordered clients with abrasive behavior present a particular challenge. One in which I must facilitate change in a relatively short time that is permanent. Because I have a gift for problem solving, a deep desire to see people happier in their lives and a plethora of tools and skills honed over a long period of time I am able to find the source and the key to moving the client forward within the first meeting. Change more often than not begins in the first session because my client feels understood on an important level. To be seen and acknowledged on a deeply personal level can really jump start the healing process in our initial session.
3. I have been the problem solver among friends and family for as long as I can remember. When I got older and started to travel I discovered that every culture has a "village problem solver". It is a respected and necessary skill to all cultures to have a person to come to who can heal relationships, facilitate growth and create cohesiveness for the good of all. When I would visit various cultures unbeknown to me I was gathering and adapting many ideas for effective problem-solving and growth. Later I studied anger, stress, communication and emotional intelligence. All of these subjects are key to working with angry people.
In 2003 maybe 2004, I studied and began to be mentored by the guru of anger management, George Anderson. It was then my accumulated skill base and his mentoring all melded together.
Why do I do what I do? Because I love it!
Sunday, October 4, 2009
The boss that comes in and yells is unequivocally inappropriate however a one time incident has a different set of symptoms/results than a boss that does this behavior all the time. A boss that is prone to inappropriate behavior definitely has one of the issues of communications, emotional intelligence or stress and should get help.
Having said that my answer to the question is to excuse yourself to the restroom! I know this seems random however I have divorcing clients in court do it all the time. It is the only thing a person won't say "no" too. That time away allows you to collect yourself. Most people have to step out of the ring as it is very easy to go right into defending oneself however if you can do this without the "bathroom trick", then by all means do so. Just know that it takes two to argue and stepping out of the ring for a moment will allow you to comeback and diffuse. Once you return ask your boss into an office with a closed door to finish the discussion. Or if you have the presence of mind to stay in the ring you can go to the final step.
Here is where you close in for the kill-offer your boss what he wants while presenting him with a neutral factual way to get there-by treating you better!
"I want to give you everything that you want in the future. At the same time, I find it difficult to do that when I am being criticized. It makes it harder for me to do my best. Where could we go from here?"
Now you are in productive dialogue and can start negotiating a win-win solution as an adult. This can help facilitate change without putting your boss on the defensive. Use facts by saying "share with me your performance expectations" or " talk to me before criticizing my work". Remember stay away from provocative language such as " what a jerk" or "what dummy calls employees out"?
Thursday, July 30, 2009
“I have been through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened.” —Mark Twain
Improving the tenor of our thoughts may seem to be a modern idea, but as Twain’s quote indicates, the fact that we can make our own misery by what we dwell upon is an age-old concern.
Why We Should Care About Our Thoughts
According to the Stress Confidential Helpline, scans on patients' brains have indicated that the types of thoughts we have influence the balance of brain chemicals. So by learning to think more positively we can cause chemicals to be secreted that boost our psychological and physical health.
Indeed, it’s well-documented that among the ill, those who remain hopeful and have a positive attitude, tend to do better.
Also, when we focus on the worse aspects of a situation that has happened to us, we ensure that our experience of it will be the worse it could be. Fortunately, the reverse is true as well.
How Do We Change Our Thoughts?
Try this technique, which was inspired by Ask and It Is Given, by Esther and Jerry Hicks.
1. Become Aware of Your Thoughts
We have to know what we’re actually thinking in order to intervene. Sit in a comfortable position and focus on your breath as it flows in and out. As thoughts arise, notice them, and then return your attention to your breathing. Do this for 20 minutes once or twice a day. It may sound simple, but awareness, purely by itself, effects subtle changes that grow.
2. Acknowledge Your Feelings
When you find yourself thinking something unhelpful, perhaps imagining losing your job, acknowledge your fear and worry. Even if you’re magnifying the problem, your fears are likely based on actual possibilities or events. They deserve your respect.
3. Soothe Yourself and Imagine Something Better
Once you acknowledge your feelings, they may shift on their own, but in any case, say something soothing to yourself while reaching for a better thought or scenario that you actually believe. If you don’t really believe it, you won’t create a genuine impact. For instance, you might recall your healthy savings account and remind yourself, “If I lose my job, I’ll be fine for six months. Financial experts say that’s a good enough cushion for job hunting.” Notice the relief you now feel.
4. Keep Going
Now escalate your better-feeling thoughts by reaching for an even better positive thought. You might consider the wealth of your experience, your great contacts, or that, gosh, you’ve always wanted to travel. You might get to a place where you can say—and believe—“I don’t want to lose my job, but if I do, I could travel and then return and find an even better job!”
In a short amount of time, your fear has transformed into hopeful excitement. When you practice this technique, you demonstrate to yourself that regardless of what happens in your life, you’ll be able to thrive.
Are you like me, recovering from last week's most draining annual ordeal which many would easily replace undergoing two consecutive root canals performed on a rainy Monday for? I'm referring to April 15, the yearly deadline Internal Revenue Service sets aside for us to file our tax returns. I don't know about you, but for me, the agonizing dilemma of tax season inevitably catches up with me. And guess what folks, this year was unfortunately no different. Keep in mind, my intention is always to file early,to get a head start, and by all means avoid the searing stress and strain that emerges when last minute planning is the order of the day. At least these are my lofty tax goals come January 1st each year. But wouldn't you know it, I didn't get around to my taxes until a few days before? Would I say I was perhaps slightly disappointed in myself? Absolutely. Could the process have been much smoother and angst free with early planning? You bet. And, did I find it a most frustrating, angry even, experience for me, and everyone within a 20 foot radius during April 13-15? Heck yes! Well, perhaps we can all agree that come next April 15, we'll do things earlier, easier, calmer, and nicer for those living with us, and transform the tax dilemma into anything but, by facing April 15, with empowerment and order, thus keeping our stress levels within the range of normal. Really, next year. For sure!
Spring is a time of renewal which we're beginning to see evident in the natural settings around us. Emotionally, the new season can represent a new lease on life, a new start, updated plans and goals for a different, perhaps, better direction. Maybe shifting ones perspective to consider things, people, and situations from a very different vantage point is feasible now. Consider that this season, may be the perfect time to think about new possibilities for your life, particular new possibilities that result in boosting your self esteem and your overall outlook on life. Shifting the momentum in your favor could be as simple as reorganizing your workspace, or, it may involve tougher decision making such as ending an unhealthy relationship or adopting a different health regime. Whatever renewal means for you, by all means be willing to seek help when you're not sure what to do, or when you're not clear where to turn. There's much to be excited about and even more to look forward to.
We know the drill. There's much to be concerned about and worried for as we embark on the third month of 2009. Yet if we insist on taking control over our emotions and choose to remain calm and cool, we can easily impact our quality of life. I'm not suggesting we can do a thing about the plunging Dow market, or influence how our 401ks perform on any given day. Further, short of remaining professional and offering great ideas that benefit our work teams, managers' needs, and projects, ultimately we can't even control if we'll have job security. But I maintain that where we have the most power and control over our daily lives is how we choose to react to situations. Regardless of the economic downturn we all know too well is upon us, how we react to the anger and frustrations we feel when we believe we are powerless, will color a situation much more negatively and adversely than need be. Quite often, a simple adjustment to our mood, and most importantly our perceptions, can inject a feeling of hope to an otherwise difficult situation. I'm so proud of the work I'm involved in at the Anger Management Institute, with 99 percent success rate of helping move people forward from anger and frustration to calmness, self control and power over their own lives, I'm convinced that anger management is a key part for anyone struggling to maintain emotional balance. More importantly, however, are the tenacious men and women I've met through my work. People of every racial, socio-economic, and educational level who decided to take on their anger issues have created a much more satisfying life for themselves. What I've learned through helping others is that 'our' own happiness and outlook on life situations, really is much more a decision that we make and one that we can control with practice.
I would love to help you or someone you know learn more about managing anger effectively and with success by contacting me, Yacine Bell for more information. My email address is firstname.lastname@example.org.
Starting off fresh can be the panacea for all things that went wrong before, or for things that didn't turn out exactly how we would have hoped for. And it is why new beginnings, like the start of 2009, can and maybe should, evoke feelings of hope and opportunity to get it right this time. Doesn't matter if getting it right means you've committed to eating healthier, exercising regularly, separating recyclables, doing your part for the environment, or to simply take more time for self awareness and improvement, when you decide to make important changes in your life, you make an investment in yourself that reaps great rewards for the most important beneficiary: you. As we embark on this most anticipated new year, be ever mindful that we are always at a place to start anew, mend what was broken or improve or change our lives if we wish to do so--here's to a wonderful new start in a year with numerous possibilities--Yacine Bell
For more information about anger management, contact Yacine Bell at to 510-393-0250 or email her at email@example.com.
The holidays are here and the remaining weeks of the year are upon us. Considering the many facets I've come to discover about anger management over the years, one important fact is that for many of us the holidays in particular are a source of great stress and often sadness. There are numerous reasons why the most 'joyous' time of the year might provoke anxiety, one obvious reason the difficulty it is for most people to measure up to the Hallmark image of family camaraderie, gleeful spending, and feelings of good will to all, this time of year. Also, many times the holidays evoke memories of a simpler time when loved ones, who are now long gone, were vibrantly alive and represented the central and cohesive member of the family and of family traditions. Then there are those whose memories of holidays were rife with unhappiness and pain. Whatever the scenario, know and understand that all of these experiences are valid and should be considered when feelings of anger, sadness, and stress cloud our ability to be joyous and happy. The great news is that today is always a new day, full of potential new experiences which you'll decide how to live out. Remember to always live your life well and on purpose and of course Happy Holidays!
My self, Yacine Bell and the Anger Management Institute is working to enhance peoples lives, contact me directly for more information at firstname.lastname@example.org.
For many, maintaining an optimistic and favorable outlook on the realities of a troubled economy seems practically impossible. Yet, to fall prey to newspaper headlines, night time and cable news reports, etc., without remembering that we all have the power to choose how we react to conditions we can't control, ultimately leaves us feeling powerless. And for those of us who have ever had to manage anger know that feelings of powerlessness is a major factor that can lead to outbursts of anger and violence. A great way to stave off the feelings, emotions, fears and other factors commonly known as 'triggers' that lead to angry reactions and attitudes, is to fully process and ponder how certain information makes us feel and how we react to these feelings. A self check is often more than enough to help keep our emotions in check when faced with conditions on the job, in traffic, within marriage, and other relationships that might be rife with stress. A self check is simply being aware of how we feel at any given moment so that our comments and responses are appropriate, and also so that they are not based on other situations which cause us worry or fear. At the Anger Management Institute, we address violence anger and the various triggers that help fuel these emotions. Additionally, we help you find workable solutions and give you the tools to manage anger effectively.
For more information about anger management, contact Yacine Bell at to 510-393-0250 or email her at email@example.com.
With the holiday’s officially beginning in a few months this is a good time to review many of the chapters in the Anderson and Anderson workbooks with your clients to help them navigate successfully through the holidays.
Joe, Sharon, Maggie, Anthony and Stephen are clients of mine that have issues of stress which leads them to anger. They all dread the holidays because in their words it tends to “bring out the worst in them”. That is why we began to review chapters on stress and anger, communications and emotional intelligence. As I told them everything we have learned up to now were lessons for life however the approaching holiday season will be an important test. By reviewing certain chapters and information I am preparing my clients for the big exam which is surviving the holidays and even having a few laughs along the way.
Today we worked on the 'Stress Chapter' as though it were the first time they have ever seen it. One of the great things about reviewing the chapter is many things that my clients might have missed, or they were not ready to grasp in the early stages of their learning, or because of their new growth they were able to grasp and embrace willingly and enthusiastically.
In addition to review we rewrote affirmation and positive self talk statements which were far more powerful than their early statements.
Today we had arts and crafts day in the last few minutes of our session. This is when we made small survival baggies to keep at work, home and in the car. Each baggie contained a few types of relaxing teas, including, mint, chamomile, and a tea called mood mender. We also included in these packages 'Rescue Remedy', and inspirational sayings. There homework assignment was to purchase a traveling hot/cold cup and a plastic water bottle as part of the tool box for holiday survival. Additionally, they were to commit to stepping out of the ring of intense energy by walking, or any other physical exercise three times a week.
Help your clients through the impending holidays by reviewing and strategizing tools for managing. If you like the idea, have your clients make a survival kit so that they may have a calm and enjoyable holiday season.
Saving Lives, Managing Anger
Several weeks ago a client came to me four days after being released from a lengthy hospital stay due to severe heart problems. Joe came knowing he was close to death.
In our initial consultation Joe noted he had heart problems. He had anger and stress issues as well. Joe’s perception of the world could be summed up in a few words: “there was a bad guy at every turn and that bad guy wasn’t going to get him.” This type of thinking kept Joe at a high state of perceived “fight or flight” stress which consequently was chipping away at his heart.
Joe came to me with little confidence and hope. I began our first session by administering the Conover Assessment with an agreement that if, after this first session he didn’t want to proceed with the process we would not go on.
My ability to interpret the Conover assessment tool made Joe feel “seen” and based on his results I mapped out what our program would look like focusing first on the areas of highest concerns. The primary focus of work was to begin with the chapters on stress from the workbook,Gaining Control of Ourselves.
While change occurred within the first two sessions, they were not enough to prevent another heart scare. When his symptoms did not abate, Joe’s doctors were ready to place him back in the hospital. He was to check himself into the hospital within the next few days.
“Joe, you have to connect the work from your brain to your heart,” I said. “This perceived stress is not all in your head, but that is where it begins.” Then I quoted from Gaining Control of Ourselves,” for one person, an event may be viewed as a perceived challenge, for another, it may be viewed as a severe threat or problem.”
I went on from there in a tone just a little loud and a tad forceful. “You must stop looking at everything as a perceived threat.”
I told Joe his body was idling to high and staying in the “fight, fight and freeze” place 24/7 with nowhere to go was not going to help his mental or physical conditions. Feeling helpless and fearful that Joe’s big heart attack was close at hand, I pulled out his assessment and went over it with him again, I gave him three assignments: to have fun with himself, go out with one other person, and to go to the company cookout scheduled for the next day.
Joe heard me. He heard the contents of the things I quoted from the workbook, and he did his assignments. He took his drums to the company picnic, and to everyone’s amazement he played and played and played with an expertise and skill base that amazed his co-workers.
Today, only eight weeks from beginning at the Anger Management Institute and following the Anderson model and curriculum, Joe has color in his skin, he smiles, makes eye contact when he speaks and told me last week he was happy. He has been to a few more company events at the invitation of his co-workers and he believes in me and my work.
Yacine Bell CAMF; CPCC; Certified Mediator
Director of the Anger Management Institute
Anger Management on the Internet
The internet has become the place to buy, sell, learn and even meet the person of your dreams. While the internet offers convenience on many levels, it is not the vehicle for people with anger issues. Anyone with anger management issues needs a trained professional to move them forward.
In my opinion people who have been ordered by the court or an employer should refrain from using online services offering anger management intervention. Many of these resources are not certified and not trained in a reliable model that the courts and accept.
There are many ways to get through court ordered anger management quickly, however, working with an uncertified provider is NOT the way. Whenever inquiring with a provider about their services be sure they are certified. Other ways to protect your time and money is to find an Anderson trained provider. You can go to the American Association of Anger Management Providers List (http://www.aaamp.org) , or the Anger Management Directory (http://www.anger-management-resources.org ).
On-line anger management provided by a non-certified provider does not guarantee court acceptance.
Yacine E. Bell CAMF; CPCC; Certified Mediator
Director of the Anger Management Institute, LLC
President of the American Association of Anger Management Providers
My name is Yacine Bell, and I am a certified anger and stress management specialist and the director of the Anger Management Institute (AMI). Since 2005, AMI has maintained a 99% success rate of client-changed behavior, with no regression.
The Anger Management Institute uses a scientifically designed evidence-based program to conduct pre- and post client evaluation. This assessment tool allows me to get to the core of existing issues rapidly, eliminate the negative behavior and facilitate changed behavior in approximately 10 weeks.
I see a client one hour a week with little to no interruption of their work schedule. By the third or fourth week, the behavior begins to shift. The remaining weeks are spent learning new tools and grounding the new behavior.
The results of my service have proven invaluable in the workplace in terms of improved workplace environment, elimination of negative behavior, reduction and/or management of stress levels. I have also been instrumental working with employers, and their successful resolution in liability issues and workman’s compensation issues. The ROI in working with the Anger Management Institute are proven and documented.
If you see the value to your organization in eliminating bad behavior and changing the workplace environment then please give me a call.
I can provide value to your organization by eliminating bad behavior and changing the workplace environment. Please call: 510.393.0250 for more information.
Welcome to MadManagement, my new blog about anything and everything relevant to anger and anger mangagement. Through this blog I hope to engage practitioners and people from every walk of life grappling with anger. Consider this blog a forum and social network to join in the discussion and share experiences, successes and failures, about one of the most misunderstood emotions--anger.
As an anger management provider and executive coach with considerable experience providing anger management assessments and intervention to businesses and industries in Northern California, I also participate as a lecturer, speaker, writer and visionary. Last month I was appointed to lead the American Association of Anger Management Providers (AAAMP) organization; my first goal in taking on this responsibility will be to help increase the visibility and credibility of the organization. As our society becomes more stressed and our natural support systems are lost, our ability to manage anger is reduced. Anger management is by far the most promising intervention available to address the issues of incivility, anger, stress, miscommunication and lack of emotional intelligence.
AAAMP was organized in 2003 to become the leading voice to express the concerns of Certified Anger Management Facilitators (CAMF) nationwide. Today, there are thousands of certified anger management facilitators nationwide representing the most highly trained individuals in anger management in the world. While Anger Management as a specialized practice is in its infancy, AAAMP continues to advocate for excellence on the part of practitioners and scholars in the field. Practice based research will be imperative to further develop evidenced based solutions to inappropriate expressions of anger and person-directed violence. Like my predecessor, I will work to achieve the following major objectives: 1) To increase the visibility of the Association in every state among schools, organizations and individuals; 2) To provide members with technical support and assist them in providing relevant services; 3) To increase membership; 4). To establish state standards nationwide for all professional anger management providers; 5) To ensure that AAAMP becomes the single most respected voice on anger management issues nationwide.
Through greater visibility in the print, television media and over the internet, I will make the voice of "AAAMP ers" known nationwide on emerging social issues.
Complete and full details on the American Association of Anger Management Providers can be found by visiting www.aaamp.org. You can reach me, Yacine Bell, directly at 510-393-0250 or via email at firstname.lastname@example.org.