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Tuesday, November 3, 2009

A Few Commonly Asked Questions

I get a lot of response to the work I do. It never fails than whenever someone finds out what I do for a living, I am asked for a card and always people will say, "as a matter of fact, give me a few, I know a few people who can use anger management".

My work seems to create a good deal of fascination, humor and loads and loads of questions. The following are three questions I am often asked:
1. How can you stand doing this?
2. Are you ever afraid and who are your clients?
3. How did you get into this line of work ?

1. I love doing the work that I do. As a matter of fact I would even venture to say, the more abrasive and unruly the client the greater the challenge and the deeper I dig my heels in to find the best tools and deepest levels of compassion to move that person forward. I am perfectly suited in temperament, as a listener and as a person who loves to watch the unfoldment of change.

2. Never been afraid. My particular choice is working with smart people who have abrasive behavior that affects their life and the lives of others by this bad behavior. This is why I love doing employer ordered work. While I work with all types of clients, employer ordered clients with abrasive behavior present a particular challenge. One in which I must facilitate change in a relatively short time that is permanent. Because I have a gift for problem solving, a deep desire to see people happier in their lives and a plethora of tools and skills honed over a long period of time I am able to find the source and the key to moving the client forward within the first meeting. Change more often than not begins in the first session because my client feels understood on an important level. To be seen and acknowledged on a deeply personal level can really jump start the healing process in our initial session.

3. I have been the problem solver among friends and family for as long as I can remember. When I got older and started to travel I discovered that every culture has a "village problem solver". It is a respected and necessary skill to all cultures to have a person to come to who can heal relationships, facilitate growth and create cohesiveness for the good of all. When I would visit various cultures unbeknown to me I was gathering and adapting many ideas for effective problem-solving and growth. Later I studied anger, stress, communication and emotional intelligence. All of these subjects are key to working with angry people.

In 2003 maybe 2004, I studied and began to be mentored by the guru of anger management, George Anderson. It was then my accumulated skill base and his mentoring all melded together.

Why do I do what I do? Because I love it!