BAR-ON 2.0 Emotional Intelligence Assessment For Performance and Behavior Management Excels

I use the BAR-ON-2.0 assessment as a tool in my work as a Performance Coach and in my practice as a specialist in anger and stress management for individuals, couples and the workplace.


Emotional Intelligence Coaching for "disruptive executives"  and employees is widely recognized as the best intervention of choice for moving executives, forward from where they are to where they need to be. With Pre and Post EQ Assessments, each intervention is "evidenced based" thorough and completely customized to the individuals needs.

Monster.com now routinely uses EQ Assessments as a part of the standard interview process for applicants for management positions as well as high stress jobs such as customer service.
The Criminal Justice System in California is now requiring that all Certified Anger Management Providers use "evidence based" intervention that use EQ Pre and Post Assessments along with written curricula.
Social Work programs in the UK and the U.S. are including Emotional Intelligence into their training.


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The Benefit's Of "NO"!!!!!

I have a really talented client who is a comedian. This guy is funny,
creative and a "doer". The downside of this multi-talented guy who
we'll call Ryan is he says, "Yes" to multiple offers, enterprises and
new ideas  By saying "yes" to so many things he constantly shifts his
energy and focus from the dream of his career as a stand-up and
diffuses into many different directions. Some "yes's" are good however
"no's" could possibly further this funny guy forward.

Ryan is angry because while he has loads of accomplishments and has
had many cool experiences much of his movement is lateral and not
forward towards the dream. Consequently, he feels bad about himself
and angry with the world about where he finds himself at this stage of
his career.  He has said more than once that others less talented have
moved more forward than himself. The issue is a lack of focus and too many "yes's"!!.

You must learn to say "no" to somethings so that you can focus and
create the room, time and energy towards what it is that really matters to
you. Some "yes's" slightly off-centered from the path can make for
good moves towards the focused goal, however, choices need to be more
strategic rather than scattered unending "yes'"..

Here's a word of wisdom from Steve Jobs for you to ponder:

"People think focus means saying yes to the thing you've got to focus
on. But that's not what it means at all. It means saying no to the
hundred other good ideas that there are. You have to pick carefully.
I'm actually as proud of the things we haven't done as the things I
have done. Innovation is saying no to 1,000 things."

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Think Before You Act

Last night I watched what potentially was going to be and argument between two people who were in separate automobiles. It got a little intense between the two drivers and I could tell by the body language of other pedestrians witnessing this "stand-off" I wasn't the only one feeling the tenseness of the moment. After what felt like a long time the driver who was technically 'right" acquiesce to the other driver and drove away.  Had the driver not driven away this incident could have developed into a war of "will" and "ego". When an argument reduces itself to either it can get really ugly.

The driver who drove away exhibited the behavior of impulse control. Without him exhibiting impulse control a dangerous situation could have developed.  

Impulse control involves understanding the appropriate times and ways to act on emotions and impulses. The importance of the behavior is that you think before you act. Had the driver not had impulse control we certainly would have witnessed some impatient and impulsive action. 

Impulse control is key to managing anger.  Your best weapon against impulsive behavior is to force yourself to take a pause before you jump into a situation.  For some taking, a few breaths works.  In those few moments ask yourself what alternative actions you could take. "Is it worth it", " or maybe "don't take it personal".

The incident last night was reaffirming that sometimes even if you're "right" it's just way better to acquiesce. To acquiesce can be used as a tool as well because some stuff is just not worth fighting about.  

Aggressive Management Can Affect A Companies Bottom-Line

Aggressive and bully bosses are so common that 17 states are working on legislation that will hold bully bosses accountable for their inappropriate behavior in the workplace.  Nothing has passed yet, however it is important because it acknowledges that employees are experiencing an epidemic level of mistreatment from higher-ups in the workplace. Poor treatment of employees is directly connected to increased absenteeism, less company loyalty, and less employee work effort.  

Smart business owners and CEO's know you can't meet company goals if you have a disgruntled and fearful workforce led by a bully upper-manager.  The best antidote to counter aggressive leadership is an Emotional Intelligence-based anger management program. The payoff is considerable!  Your valued manager will have a change in behavior and will be back on the job with better leadership, performance and results from employees.  

Addressing and replacing inappropriate management behavior with a positive leadership engagement style behavior is a win-win process that creates a positive synergy between employees, upper management and can positively contribute to a companies bottom-line.

For more information on Emotional Intelligence Coaching or Anger Management for Aggressive leaders please call the Anger Management Institute @ 510.393.0250

Anger Management Institute Offers An Evidence Based Program

The Anger Management Institute is an evidence based process specializing in inappropriate behavior in the workplace, workplace violence and bullying in the workplace.  We are an emotional intelligence based process with a pre and post assessment tool used with all entering clients.

AMI's, program have proven to be the most effective for changing and managing behavior; and improving inter and intra personal skills. Emotional Intelligence based coaching is by far the most effective intervention for impulse control. These skills can best be taught in an individualized one-one format for quick thorough and efficient results

For more information on our programs please contact the Anger Management Institute specialist in workplace behavior and performance @510.393.0250.