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Tuesday, February 18, 2014
The Benefit's Of "NO"!!!!!
I have a really talented client who is a comedian. This guy is funny,
creative and a "doer". The down side of this multi-talented guy who
we'll call Ryan is he says, "Yes" to multiple offers, enterprises and
new ideas By saying "yes" to so many things he constantly shifts his
energy and focus from the dream of his career as a stand up and
diffuses into many different directions. Some "yes's" are good however
"no's" could possibly further this funny guy forward.
Ryan is angry because while he has loads of accomplishments and has
had many cool experiences much of his movement is lateral and not
forward towards the dream. Consequently, he feels bad about himself
and angry with the world about where he finds himself at this stage of
his career. He has said more than once that others less talented have
moved more forward than himself. The issue is a lack of focus and and too many "yes's"!!.
You must learn to say "no" to somethings so that you can focus and
create room, time and energy towards what it is that really matters to
you. Some "yes's" slightly off-centered from the path can make for
good moves towards the focused goal however choices need to be more
strategic rather than scattered unending "yes'"..
Here's a word of wisdom from Steve Jobs for you to ponder:
"People think focus means saying yes to the thing you've got to focus
on. But that's not what it means at all. It means saying no to the
hundred other good ideas that there are. You have to pick carefully.
I'm actually as proud of the things we haven't done as the things I
have done. Innovation is saying no to 1,000 things."
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