Anger Management Is More Than Just Anger Management

 It is not unusual for someone to call and cancel their first appointment a few times before finally arriving at my office. After all who REALLY wants to come to Anger Management?    Anger Management is a process that goes far beyond dealing with just anger. Anger Management is not therapy however it is incredibly therapeutic.  In actuality, it is performance management.  If you are not getting something that you want more than likely you are doing a behavior that is preventing your success. It is a behavior that happens over and over again in one or more aspects of your life and usually with the same result. Maybe you don't know how to stop the behavior. Maybe you don't really know what to do. Maybe you can't exactly put your finger on what the behavior is. Anger may be how you arrive to my office because you're acting out.  Granted acting out is an issue for you.  However, your anger is under the umbrella of something bigger. Let's find out what that is and many things will positively reconfigure around you.

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A Little Information About Anger In The Workplace

Anger is a natural human emotion.  We are all wired for it. It is okay to get angry.  Anger is actually a tool for protection and survival. Anger protects us in harmful situations by disconnecting us from our reason. This is popularly known as "fight" or "flight". In professional environments however neither reaction is constructive. Both reactions drive us from our work and drain our energy, and then lead to feelings of resentment and frustrations.

Disagreeing with someone in the workplace is not uncommon however there is "appropriate" and "inappropriate" ways to pound out your differences or disagreements.  Anger appropriately used can move you forward with your colleagues and even affect a better outcome of a project.  The most necessary skill needed is assertive communication and compromise.  Inappropriate anger in the workplace particularly when the behavior is repeated can affect moral, attendance and productivity and lastly probably land you in an anger management program.

The Anger Management Institute is an assessment based, evidence based program with effective results.
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A Little About Anger Management

I am an Anderson trained Anger Management Facilitator for  self-referred and court ordered adolescents and adults with a specialty in Employer ordered clients. 

The most qualified and well trained providers in Anger Management are Anderson trained facilitators.  The curriculum and training of facilitators is rigorous and comprehensive.  George Anderson is really the person who set the bar in creating a solid field of study when it comes to the subject of anger management.   Prior to the last 10 years providers of anger management were generally ex-offenders who saw the error of their ways, learned from their mistakes and then set out a shingle as providers of anger management.  Not to demean the hard earned knowledge of the earlier providers of AM however it is important to say that the knowledge base was not enough until  the Guru of AM, George Anderson came along and filled in the serious gaps in training people to be providers anger management.  Anger Management is extremely effective in changing the lives of people worldwide thanks to Mr. Anderson's studies and work in the field.  

I have been personally mentored and trained by Mr. Anderson.  As a result of training and effective assessment tools as well as continuing education I have a 99% success rate of moving people effectively forward from where they are to where they need to be in managing stress and anger, emotional intelligence and communication.

For further information please contact the Anger Management Institute, LLC, 510.393.0250

Why We Shout In Anger

This is a Hindu story that I Love.  I thought you might enjoy the story and the message as well.

"Why We Shout In Anger"

A Hindu saint who was visiting the river Ganges to take a bath and found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples smiled and asked.

'Why do people shout in anger at each other?'

Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, 'Because we lose our calm, we shout.'

'But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner.' asked the saint

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples.
Finally the saint explained, .

'When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance.

What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small...'

The saint continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper 'n they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other 'n that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.'

He looked at his disciples and said.

'So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, Do not say words that distance each other more, Or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.'