A Gentle Reminder To Management

Good managers are developed.

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Coach Your Managerss To Coach Their Staff

Managers and supervisors should be the very people proficient at coaching.  Providing professional coaching to those in management is an effective, long term, and cost-efficient solution that can ultimately affect a company's bottom line.  Whether the first line of management or upper management, responsibility focuses less on task completion and becomes more about managing and leading employees in such a way that allows them to use their skill base to get their jobs done.

A manager without good people skills and/or emotional intelligence puts him/herself in the dangerous position of ignoring their staff's potential.

For more information about coaching for workplace professionals please contact the Anger Management Institute, 510.393.0250.

BAR-ON 2.0 Emotional Intelligence Assessment For Performance and Behavior Management Excels

I use the BAR-ON-2.0 assessment as a tool in my work as a Performance Coach and in my practice as a specialist in anger and stress management for individuals, couples and the workplace.


Emotional Intelligence Coaching for "disruptive executives"  and employees is widely recognized as the best intervention of choice for moving executives, forward from where they are to where they need to be. With Pre and Post EQ Assessments, each intervention is "evidenced based" thorough and completely customized to the individuals needs.

Monster.com now routinely uses EQ Assessments as a part of the standard interview process for applicants for management positions as well as high stress jobs such as customer service.
The Criminal Justice System in California is now requiring that all Certified Anger Management Providers use "evidence based" intervention that use EQ Pre and Post Assessments along with written curricula.
Social Work programs in the UK and the U.S. are including Emotional Intelligence into their training.


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The Benefit's Of "NO"!!!!!

I have a really talented client who is a comedian. This guy is funny,
creative and a "doer". The downside of this multi-talented guy who
we'll call Ryan is he says, "Yes" to multiple offers, enterprises and
new ideas  By saying "yes" to so many things he constantly shifts his
energy and focus from the dream of his career as a stand-up and
diffuses into many different directions. Some "yes's" are good however
"no's" could possibly further this funny guy forward.

Ryan is angry because while he has loads of accomplishments and has
had many cool experiences much of his movement is lateral and not
forward towards the dream. Consequently, he feels bad about himself
and angry with the world about where he finds himself at this stage of
his career.  He has said more than once that others less talented have
moved more forward than himself. The issue is a lack of focus and too many "yes's"!!.

You must learn to say "no" to somethings so that you can focus and
create the room, time and energy towards what it is that really matters to
you. Some "yes's" slightly off-centered from the path can make for
good moves towards the focused goal, however, choices need to be more
strategic rather than scattered unending "yes'"..

Here's a word of wisdom from Steve Jobs for you to ponder:

"People think focus means saying yes to the thing you've got to focus
on. But that's not what it means at all. It means saying no to the
hundred other good ideas that there are. You have to pick carefully.
I'm actually as proud of the things we haven't done as the things I
have done. Innovation is saying no to 1,000 things."

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Think Before You Act

Last night I watched what potentially was going to be and argument between two people who were in separate automobiles. It got a little intense between the two drivers and I could tell by the body language of other pedestrians witnessing this "stand-off" I wasn't the only one feeling the tenseness of the moment. After what felt like a long time the driver who was technically 'right" acquiesce to the other driver and drove away.  Had the driver not driven away this incident could have developed into a war of "will" and "ego". When an argument reduces itself to either it can get really ugly.

The driver who drove away exhibited the behavior of impulse control. Without him exhibiting impulse control a dangerous situation could have developed.  

Impulse control involves understanding the appropriate times and ways to act on emotions and impulses. The importance of the behavior is that you think before you act. Had the driver not had impulse control we certainly would have witnessed some impatient and impulsive action. 

Impulse control is key to managing anger.  Your best weapon against impulsive behavior is to force yourself to take a pause before you jump into a situation.  For some taking, a few breaths works.  In those few moments ask yourself what alternative actions you could take. "Is it worth it", " or maybe "don't take it personal".

The incident last night was reaffirming that sometimes even if you're "right" it's just way better to acquiesce. To acquiesce can be used as a tool as well because some stuff is just not worth fighting about.